❼ How to Stop Worrying About What People Think of You

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This blog post contains something that has essentially been a breakthrough in my life.

And that is, the perfect answer to the question, “what would people think of me???”. Enjoy! xo

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When I was working on my book Story Story, one of the things I really wanted to talk about was self-acceptance.

And in the process of doing that, I wanted to be able to share my personal story about certain insecurities that I had about a very specific part of my body.

This insecurity was so deep, that I actually considered cosmetic surgery to “fix” this part of my body.

I hadn’t really shared this with anybody and I felt very afraid of putting it in my book.

I wondered what my friends would think of me.

Would they make fun of me?

How would my family feel about this information being out there?

Would they be embarrassed?

What would my husband think of me?

What would my subscribers think of me?

What would my former co-workers think of me?

What would my clients think of me?”

There were a lot of people that I was like, “What would they think of me?”

But as you can see in the book, the story is there.

So How Exactly Does A Person Overcome Worries About What Other People will Think?

Whenever I find myself thinking, “What would people think of me?” I found that the first thing I have to do is just stop and ask myself, “Who are these people?”

Who exactly are they?

To my surprise, half the time, I cannot tell you who these people are.

It’s often just this vague concept of “What would people think of me?” But then when I ask myself, “Who are these people?” I don’t have any answers.

I find that if I can’t name specific names; then I just do what I want to do.

What if I can name specific names?

Going back to the example about my book, I had very specific people that I was worried about what they would think of me.

In this scenario, I would usually spend some time thinking about what they might think of me and then I decide.

I decide whether their opinion is valid enough to cause me to change my course of action.

If I think their opinion is valid, then I change my action. If I decide that I don’t really care too much, then I move on with my original plan.

Does this Method Work to Stop Worrying about What people think of you?

Yes, it does.

Let me tell you, it’s such a freeing feeling to be able to say, “You know what? I knew my mom was not going to like that, but I did it anyway.”

Or “I knew that my subscribers wouldn’t like that, but I did it anyway.”

So that’s my really quick tip on the perfect answer to “What would people think of me?” The answer is:

  1. “Who are these people?”
  2. “Do their opinions matter enough for me to change my actions?”

If the answer to #2 is yes, then I change my actions. If they don’t matter, then I do what I want to do.

Your Turn

  • Are you one of those lucky ducks that really doesn’t care about what people think of you?
  • What’s your best advice for being brave and taking action in the face of fear?
  • Did you enjoy this blog post? :)

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14 thoughts on “❼ How to Stop Worrying About What People Think of You”

  1. Hey Kola! Great post! This is something many people deal with including myself. Thanks for sharing what you’ve you learned and how you’ve grown in your own journey.

  2. Hi Kola!
    I struggle with the same thing and it’s very reassuring to know that someone else shares those same sentiments. I love this video very much and I especially like the self evaluation element on who really matters the most. I have posted this video to my Pinterest page. Thank you so much for sharing this video and I wish you the best in your future endeavours.

    1. Oh wow thank you so much, Alexis!!! Yes, you are absolutely not alone. Makes me really happy to hear that you enjoyed the video and it was helpful :) Wish you the very best also

  3. Kola, I love your videos but how do I get transcripts of them? I’m one of those (strange) people who prefer reading to watching :-)

    1. Hey Lape! ^_^ Thanks so much for stopping by! Just above the video, there’s a line that says “prefer to read? click here” if you click on that, there’s a nice and dandy little transcript for each video :)

      1. Okay, cool. Thanks :-) I’ve read it and think the questions to ask yourself are good. Useful and easy to apply article!

  5. Thank you Kola. I needed this post. As much as i hate to admit, what other people think of me is a huge issue i am dealing with. These tips are amazing. I will implement them, and hope it works :)

  6. It was refreshing to read your take on this matter. So many times, we allow our fears to stop us from doing the things we love. Your 2 questions are useful to enable us sift through our fears. And act boldly.

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