Ever felt like the scum of the earth? Deep down inside, you want to be funnier, smarter, or maybe just a little more “normal”. You want to be all of these things more than anything else in the whole world…but…you just aren’t. It seems as though life handed you the short end of the stick in every area of everything. No matter how hard you try, it’s just never good enough. yes? read on…
I was recently trying to eat a grapefruit in peace when the topic of leftovers came up. The conversation led to someone suggesting that some people get handed the leftovers in life because that’s all they really need to fulfill their purpose. I’ll bet that’s not what you were expecting to hear but before you click away, hold up and think about it. Could it be possible that you are not as funny as Joe because your purpose in life does not require you to make people laugh? is it a possibility that you are not built to be thin because the thing(s) that you need to be about on this earth do not require you to look that way?
One of the greatest tragedies in life is our tendency as human beings to be so busy being envious of others that we forget the value of the gifts that we’ve already been given.
What would the world look like if all our large intestines decided to be jealous of our hair and nails? sounds absurd doesn’t it? but that’s exactly what we do when we refuse to find ways of using our talents but instead dwell unprofitably on the things/abilities that we don’t have.
The Kicker
If you often find yourself in a place where you feel that your best is just never good enough, chances are that you are constantly comparing yourself to others in an unhealthy way. Other times, it’s simply because you (or your loved ones) have extremely high expectations. Regardless of the cause, constantly beating yourself up for not being a certain way is not only unhealthy, but also counterproductive. It’s not easy to be in this position, but there are a few things you can do right away.
What to Do
In everything you do, put in your best so that at the end of the day, you can say with confidence that you gave 100% and then move on to the next challenge. When you know that you did your very best, it’s really hard for you or anyone else to beat you up about how things turn out.
People say experience is the best teacher, but i prefer to think that other peoples’ experiences are the ultimate teachers! Keep your eyes wide open to see where other people are making mistakes. Do everything in your power not to make the same mistakes. Even if you trip up and do something silly, don’t dwell on it. Learn from your mistakes and make a decision to move on.
Invest in learning to control your mind rather than spending time and energy trying to control others. Life is already complicated enough….don’t attempt to take on the responsibility of helping another person to live his/her life as well. Instead, spend some time training the muscles of your mind to think positive, nurturing thoughts that will help you get to where you need to be.
With these three keys working in sync, you will be well on your way to appreciating your “leftovers”.